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Oliver
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Thank you for visiting. This blog was created by me, Cristen Salter, for other MS patients and their families in order to help them and myself cope with and face this disease. All information that are not personal experiences are thoroughly researched and cites are created in link or reference form. If you have a burning desire to ask me a question, please do so at cristen.salter@gmail.com. Enjoy and I hope you glean comfort, education and room for compassion for all those who suffer from this disease.

Saturday, February 20, 2010

Wherever I go, there I am...and I am a spiritual being having a human experience.



I have to remember this every time I get down about my MS. What is my purpose? Why am I here? I still have not figured that out, but I desperately want to. 
The past month and a half have been eye openers for me. I get the help I need when I ask for it, however I did not expect on thing. And it has twisted my life so badly, I am not sure what to do.
When I worked for a certain employer, he was very insensitive to my MS. That is being mild. Eventually, I left him at his request, as he assaulted me out the door. During the time I worked for him, I asked fore certain accommodations. Before I did so I consulted with an employment attorney in the county and  of course read the rules and statutes thoroughly myself. The more I asked for, the more agitated he got. it was "beauty parlor bullshit" and "hoo haa" to him. He told me I never gave him any diagnosis to prove it; and I of course had given it to the person who held herself out to be a manager or administrator of his firm. She denied it but then found it. 
I asked for a few things. They were reasonable and were not a burden on his business. I am a paralegal (just took the LSAT). In this particular attorney's practice, I managed all of his family law cases (18-25 cases), his civil cases (3-4) and criminal cases (3-4). in a usual week, he also had 5-7 bankruptcy cases he showed in court for and was constantly on the phone with "money calls" (potentially new cases). Potentially new cases took precedence over current cases. He was a very difficult attorney to work for for many reasons, and this was one of many.
In March I was hired by him to run his family law cases. I was told to work 9-5 or 10-6. The building was a federal bank building and opened at 9 and closed at 6, so I had a choice of the two. The job was almost perfect; I lived 3 blocks away and I was able to bring my cat. That did not work out well; she often got frightened by all the traffic in the office, so I stopped bringing her. 
At the time he had over 20 many of which were neglected and some he did not show for because they were not calendared in the previous months before that. His favorite assistant, Jan, tried to tell me what to do, but she was so incompetent I entertained her words only. For example, she told me that one particular case was waiting for something on the plaintiff side. She advised me to put it away as we had other matters. A few weeks later the client wanted to know where the attorney was; they had permanent orders that day. I never spoke to another person about family law again. 
This particular attorney also had an obsession with making fun of people. the week after he hired me he asked why I was parked in a handicapped spot. I told him by law I did not have to disclose it. He immediately told me he could not trust me. I decided to tell him I have MS. I then told the 3 other employees in the office. I knew if I did not, he would. Why? When he was looking for a bankruptcy assistant, the one he wanted was great, he told us, except the former employer disclosed she had a disability. Jan then found out what it was and told the entire office. In secret, one by one, of course, and I would not let that happen.
So, when he was furnished with the diagnosis I gave his "administrator", he then told me he wanted other records pertaining to my disability.   The first accommodation I asked for was that he give me 5-6 minutes to process any requests. He said he would do it, but never did. The second was that I was given keys to the building so I could come and go when there was work to be done. Often I arrived at 7 am and left at 9 pm or later. I worked for 5 attorneys and handled twice the work and never left after 6 pm. I wanted to go back to working 8 hours, like the rest of the firm. He was always behind on my cases and it held me back. Then we would file last minute and that was a stressful drag. 
He used to yell at me a lot; calling me stupid, I did not listen, and that I depended on him too much. He wanted me to sign pleadings and motions for him. Yet that was illegal, and would hurt him more than me but I was unwilling to do it. He hated family law, therefore hated me and so did the firm. I was a distraction, although I had a heavy caseload and pertinent documents that needed review and his signature as approval. 
In August we began to have personality conflicts. Here I am watching his back and he just had no interest. I was not a lawyer, yet I soon learned the people who malpracticed law for him became his favorites, even though I re-wrote his rep and fee agreements, explained the reasoning for COLTAF accounts and had clients come in and either sign rep and fee agreements or re-do them all together to keep him out of trouble. 
Moral: I got a cognitive test, aka neuropsychological test. Not only was it a new test, it was something I was billed over 3,250.00 for and it was the one thing I never thought it would be: a bomb. It was all sorts of test rolled into one, including an IQ test and you did it over a 2 day period. I had not taken any of the tests in 30 years, making it suspect to me. 
Also, read the statutes in your state or consult with an employment lawyer. Most will speak to you for free, and if not, call your county's legal aid. 
I left the firm before I was able to give it to him, however, when my father applied for health insurance with a rider that you draw on (the death benefit) no one would even consider me. Further, the doctor who administered the test, refused to sign an accommodations letter for the LSAT or anyone, even though that was the reason I got it!! Why pay for it, then? 
Be careful about the tests you take. I am currently unemployed and on unemployment. I have taken the LSAT for law school, but was denied accommodations on that one test. My hope is that the health care bill gets passed and I can get the rider and life insurance. If not, all I have is state help. Better than nothing, it falls short of many of the costs that I may encounter in life. 
 As for my life's path, my purpose, it is still yet to be revealed. I will post my ideas next. 
That's it for now, may every day find you happy and healthy! And as my father says - look up!